The Problems with Finding Your Purpose

In the spiritual awakening and discovery it is common to begin the journey of finding your purpose. Avoid these problems so you can better live your purpose.

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Welcome to today’s podcast. We’re going to do a little mini version here today because I have to get my younger daughter from school in about 20 minutes. So I just wanted to do a little quickie podcast for you today and let’s just connect really quickly.

Just relax your body and take nice deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Good job. Now in this next breath, I’d like you to inhale through your belly, please. So your belly expands as you inhale. Good job, one more. Okay. Very nice.

All right, what are we going to do in this little mini message? I don’t know. I have some ideas. Let me just kind of go deeper. within myself and see what we want to offer today and maybe remind you guys of Yeah, let’s start there.

So and what are we doing here? For those of you that are new, welcome. Just reminding myself there was an email I sent out this morning with somebody’s private session and he isn’t as into this kind of work. But his mom is. So anyway, he got roped into a session I think anyway, and what came through in his as I was sending out a session recording, I’m just going to read it.

Please consider our podcasts. Wherever you listen to podcast just search Jill Renee Feeler.  Like Joe Rogan’s you don’t have to experience ours in any order. I’ve been podcasting regularly since 2011. Before they were called podcasts lol, there’s a lot of wisdom in our growing supply of podcasts for anyone to know themselves better to know this world better to say no to unnecessary bullshit and to be better every effing day. I kind of like that. So that is what we do here and yeah, so we do it in our unique way I’m not trying to be someone else I’m, thank God in a point in my life where I’m just trying to be me. And I think doing a pretty good job of being my one and my, I want to say authentic self. Probably 20 years ago, I didn’t even know what that was.

Let’s talk about that for a minute. You, for those of you especially that are younger, or even those of you that are older that are still feeling like you’re trying to find yourself. The context is off in that regard. Because the version of me that I am right now I didn’t find her. I made her, okay. Through a series of choices and the decisions to choices and choices that I made for myself and choices that were offered back to me from this world, etc things I said yes to, things I said no to, etc.

So when we are looking through the perspective at your purpose and who and what you are is something you find, then you have the potential of getting lost, okay? And it doesn’t feel fun to be lost and especially when there’s when there’s not something out there to find. Okay, this is huge actually. I really like what we’re doing. Okay. So instead the more accurate lens to look through, is that your future you and your purpose is something you are creating every day. Okay? So then you can’t get lost because you got you. You got your you of today. Which is part of your you have tomorrow right? Now for some people this is a problem though because they don’t like that they don’t like their them.

So where they are today is not what they want to be and they’re trying to get out of who they are to become something that they want to be or that they think they should be, right. But you can’t do that from anywhere else then who and what you are now, this is your today is your starting point, whatever you want. Sorry, not sorry. That’s what that’s your core ingredients right?

So can you add to your core ingredients by you know, wisdom and you know, knowledge and you know, self improvement and all of these things? Of course you can, but if you are discounting the relevance of your you today, and maybe not appreciating your you today, then you’re going to keep trying to get out of yourself and that’s, I am just going to be super blunt. I don’t think That’s going to work well.

So for those of you that are older than me, I’m 49 I was born in 1970 that I like I’m still trying to find myself it’s very possible that what we’ve only been talking about here in three minutes is just a huge aha moment it’s just like oh, fudge then looking at all these years trying to find myself and what all I needed really to do was to start with the base of who and what I was on that day and what I am today and go from there Yeah, so what I love to do in my work not just through the podcast but in private sessions and I mean we have so many classes that are just stored waiting for you guys and membership experiences. I try to help you see what is so high functioning in your today. In your you right now. I have ninja savvy skills at that. Am I the only one that can do that? No. Who do you know that’s constantly complimenting you. Ask them like, what do you love about me? Cuz I’m missing it Right? Do whatever you need to do, right? But start with the frame of it’s not that there’s nothing wrong with you, right? It’s not that there’s nothing wrong with me. It’s that I understand what does work well for me and what is good about me. And I start with that, and I grow from there, right? And I trust myself more and I’m a I’m a bend the rules, do my own thing, you know, lone wolf kind of person, so I don’t wait for the crowd. And you may be like too So that is definitely in your favor, because then you can start whenever you want to start on exploring another version of yourself, right. Okay.

So purpose, purpose is a very tricky word. For those that are very much into expanding consciousness and new ages and spirituality, you know, these beautiful things. Purpose has become like this quest like a vision quest sort of game of what is my purpose and asking a whole bunch of different people what your purpose is giving them a lot of credit by the way, which they may or may not deserve. And when people ask me that question too and I love to offer them my perspective, but I also love to ask them back, what do you want your purpose to be? Because the primary person that should be deciding what your frickin purpose is? Is you okay? Now if you don’t trust yourself, then I recommend that you listen to the most recent as I’m recording this anyway podcast, which is what number we on. Let me see, hang on, I’m gonna find it. 228 Thank you. Okay, so podcast 228 I really recommend listening to that. If you don’t trust yourself if you had some it have some insecurities, the topic that’s listed for 228 loneliness but I know there’s something in there for you if you feel insecure and you doubt yourself a lot, okay? Because just think of how distorted that can end up.

If you are feeling like you don’t have the authority to learn or determine or decide what your life purpose is, and yet you’ve given that authority to someone else. Anyone else. I don’t care how amazing they are, you’ve given away some of your most valuable storyline and ask someone else to write it for you. I don’t think you want to do that. Right. I’m not saying it’s not a beautiful person that told you what your purpose was. But you should have at least some say in the matter, right? Yeah, you are creating your life every day. Not just by what you do and what you think and what you read or what you write by by who and what you are. Right, that’s your that’s what you’ve got to work with. And in any day, you have a litany of choices, right? I totally believe in free will, I still am trying to understand. I’m trying to see how somebody like Sam Harris, who I deeply respect. How he can with his intelligence and his training. I think he has a PhD, I respect him.

But I I’m just like, how is he getting to the conclusion and I think Sean Carroll too was an astrophysicist. I need to listen to some of those interviews again about how they really seem to be not just they don’t believe it. They like as scientists that is true, there is no free will. And I’m just like, well, so I’m still trying to see their point because I want us I like to see other people’s points of view, and maybe it will change my point of view, but I’m I am not. I am a definite believer and I can’t prove that it’s true. And I don’t think they can prove that it’s true either their belief but you have free will. Okay? I’m deciding to do this podcast today. When somebody treats you badly, you have choices. When somebody treats you nicely, you have choices when somebody goes out of their way for you, you have choices when somebody tries to tell you what they think your life purpose is, you have choices. Okay? You always have choices. And yes, there are things that get decided for us. That’s the random, chaotic part of this reality. And that’s, look for the podcast that’s on luck. Let me find the number for you so you can easily find it because that’s a big one, especially for the law of attraction, and of course in miracles folks, and that’s a very different perspective offered in podcast number 223. Okay, you may want to check that one out too. Okay, so when you allow yourself to feel more responsibility, which is really just responding to your abilities. You have more say in what you are every day.

So your purpose then becomes something very general if I were to describe my purpose in this lifetime as Jill, which I do feel I have a hell of a say over. Thank you very much. I would describe my life purpose as I know it today as helping people feel close, personally close to a loving God, a God that a loving presence and I call it God, some are like, Oh, she’s talking to religion now. Well call it whatever you want. Okay? It doesn’t have to be if you’re an atheist or an agnostic and you’ve already turned off, bye, I love you. God loves you too know but if you’re still here, it doesn’t. You don’t have to put God to it. Okay, what would you say instead. I believe that we, as humans are capable of far better than we, as a human race are currently being. I recognize that I only have authority over me. I can’t fix the rest of the world. And I don’t want to pretend that I can. Okay. But by being my me with how much I love the rest of humanity and different like, maybe I have some wisdom to offer, maybe I have some advice to offer. Maybe I’m just making you laugh a little bit today and with maybe some humor and wit and intelligent conversation, which I hope we’re achieving today that I’m offering you another way of being your best to you, right? Because what fun would it be? If If one person is a total badass, awesome rock star and everybody else sucked, and they were their worst, right? That would not be any fun, Samson I thought I heard him in the hallway. That would be no fun, right? So as somebody that acknowledges that I am a rock star and I know you are a rock star, even if you don’t know that you’re a rock star yet, I like to have fellow rock stars to hang out with.

So this option that we each have for being our most amazing self, by our own standards, regardless of how the world responds to you or not. I think that’s a level of freedom and liberation of your most amazing qualities. To have more room and to give yourself more credit for what you’re working with there and what you’re starting with. Okay. Yeah, some of you may be asking, How do I do that? By starting somewhere, that’s how you that’s how you do that. Okay. There’s not a set roadmap, right? Um, I, I completely just anyone that’s saying I can help you get there. I think they’re lying to themselves, to be honest with you. I think that it’s much creating a purpose and creating a great life and making yourself a better person whenever that whatever that means to you what do you want to be better at right? Or what do you want to be less shitty at? I know that that starts anywhere but the more you talk about it and the more you pretend that there’s some grand plan that if you just have that then things would be easier the more you’re going to delay the process and then you’re you could be Samson. Oh wait the cat may have a bird.

Okay, let’s wrap this up and then I’ll go see go see who needs help. I love cats but I really dislike all the hunting that goes on. Okay, anyway, so back to this for a moment and who’s ever needed help I’ll get to them as quickly as possible. Okay. But for a roadmap just start somewhere okay. The whatever you are offered as a roadmap or whatever you come up with the roadmap is probably going to change anyway. Because you don’t know how it’s going to feel until you do it. Okay? So as you create a version of you, as you create not find, a version of you that you like better, you will want to adjust. Okay, that felt good. Okay, that didn’t do it, right? And then you can hone it. So allow it to be as fluid as an actual life really is. An actual life is very dynamic, filled with possibilities and filled with choices. Okay. That’s it. It is true. It’s not the kind of fact I can prove to anyone. But I do know it’s true. And I do believe that it leads to a much happier, healthier life by believing that’s true versus the other end of the spectrum, which is we have no choices, that you know, your life is just the series of predestined steps and you’re just trying to figure out if you’re doing it right one day after another. God There’s no there’s no agency in that. There’s no personal authority. Really. There’s no authorship. There’s no creativity. Oh God, I wouldn’t who would incarnate. If that was the system. Who the fudge would be here. No, not me. That’s for sure. Yeah. Hmm. Okay. Anyway, some fun thoughts, hopefully for you to consider. I do love you. I don’t even know you. Most of you. And I love you. And I hope you found this useful. Okay. Hey, we did a quickie message those are and we don’t normally get those done. Anyway. Thank you so much. If you like this, thank you so much for liking or subscribing. It doesn’t make a difference whether you subscribe or like to me because I’m still committed to this, because I like doing them. But I do appreciate it is fun to watch those numbers go up. If you enjoyed this, so thank you so much. And thank you for sharing with another if you feel like somebody else could benefit from it. Okay. Yeah, because their chances of finding me on YouTube, are probably less than somebody’s chances of you sharing it and if they like it and seeing it from you, okay, anyway, who knows how those algorithms really work. I don’t. Okay. I love you guys. Bye for now.